Your collaboration with fellow circumfetishist Thomas Wiswell in the Mayo Clinic Proceedings article has inspired numerous postings, rebuttals and outrage on Facebook. I’m not angry for the simple reason that I don’t expect any better of either of you. Though it does amaze me how two older men have dedicated their lives to either skinning or wanting to fantasize about the perpetual skinning of baby penises.
Having addressed this open letter to only Brian, since I don’t know much about Wiswell other than his obsession with circumcision, I will keep my further remarks directed to him. I have read your comments on Facebook as well as in articles you regurgitate again and again online. You call those of us against RIC foreskin worshipers. This is probably the craziest thing you can call us, since we don’t worship anything. We merely try to tell doctors to put their knives down and leave the defenseless babies alone.
I can’t wrap my mind around why you are so obsessed with infant circumcision, other than you are just creepy and it turns you on. Because honestly, what do you get out of making sure all men will have ED and calloused penises at your age? Since surely you suffer from both of these and are bitter. Is that why? You can’t stand the idea that there are men out there who can enjoy sex more than you can? There is a psychological disorder for that, you know? I’ve even referenced it in one of my many articles, but I”m sure you know all about it.
But that’s not why I am writing this letter. I wanted to let you know why I am an intactivist, since you clearly have no clue why women and mothers like me are fighting against men like you. I don’t have a foreskin fetish, since I think I’ve only seen two in my whole life: my father’s when I was very young and my 5 year old son’s (I hope that irks you that he is intact, I really do). If any man has had one since I’ve been sexually active, I don’t recall, and my husband of nine years is cut. So I can’t say which I would prefer to be with, since I don’t know if I’ve even been with an intact man. I’ve certainly not inspected all of them, especially when I was younger and less bold.
So my intactivism has nothing to do with my sexual preference. Not only that, but it’s damn creepy for a woman to want her son to be cut or not based on her own sexual desires. Why then, did I want him to remain intact? That’s a good question, and not something that has an easy answer, so I will summarize.
I was raised thinking that all men were circumcised as babies. I thought the foreskin was a flap that went over the penis and prevented normal function. I truly thought it was a little snip and believed all the lies that went along with it. It surprised me the first time someone from another country told me that he couldn’t imagine letting anyone cut off his foreskin. I couldn’t wrap my mind around that discovery. So not everyone did it? How was that possible? I can only assume I didn’t know my father was intact during this brainwashing, or I thought that sex was difficult for him and my mother, and I certainly never asked.
I was then linked to an article written by a man who was very unhappy with his circumcision. He didn’t even know that was the problem until someone told him about restoring his foreskin (weights on his penile shaft skin, forcing it to grow to cover the glans), which was taking him a couple years. He reported going from not being able to ejaculate during sex, no matter what position he tried, to having renewed sensory pleasure that blew his mind. I could no longer keep my head in the sands of ignorance and I started doing my own research, and the more I found, the more disgusted I became with myself…and the more disgusted I became with you. You were always at the forefront of the myths and lies spread about boys remaining intact. As soon as one of your lies were disproved, you’d publish a new lie. The cycle appears endless, at least until you finally die, I suppose. And no, of course that isn’t a threat, but luckily you’re not a young man, and everyone dies of old age. You are getting a bit long in the tooth, as they say.
Fast forward a few years to finding out I was pregnant with a boy. I knew circumcision was wrong, but I was married to a cut man and didn’t want him to think he didn’t have any say. Suffice to say I wasn’t as researched then as I am now, 6 years later, or I would have flat out told him that it would not happen. But then I asked him what he thought, and of course his response was he wanted his son to look like him. I gave him a small bit of info on it, and he said we would ask the pediatrician after our son was born. Luckily, we got an educated and compassionate doctor who basically told us that “although it cuts down the chances of UTI’s in the first 6 months, there were no other benefits.” He also told us that he didn’t like to do them and that the foreskin was put there for a reason. That was enough for my husband, who responded, “then we won’t do it.” I was relieved! Since then, I’ve given him enough information that he finally admits that it’s wrong to do it to any baby, himself included.
So although you have no business knowing any of this information about me and my family, I wanted you to know, so you will know that you are as ignorant about women like me as you are about the BS benefits you spout about RIC.
Shame on you for choosing such a hurtful and horrible agenda as your life pursuit. If there is a hell, there has to be a special place for those who like to hurt children and babies.