So far I have discussed in detail how circumcision can affect a newborn baby boy as well as the psychological implications on them when they grow into men. I have avoided discussing the sexual aspects and ramifications of circumcision but would like to touch briefly on that subject now. As I have said in previous posts, I don’t know if I’ve had sex with an intact man. All I know is that my husband is circumcised, so that is my most recent experience. The man from my past who may or may not be cut was over 20 years ago, so that’s a distant but pleasant memory.
While I will not be explicit and give every detail of my personal sexual experience, I will give examples of stories I have read mixed in with my own anecdotes. So be forewarned that this should not be read with children present.
Since circumcised penises have been normal and expected throughout my sexual history, it never occurred to me that I was missing out on something…but I was and probably will for the rest of my life with a cut man. Is it all bad? No, of course not. My husband and I have had some really good sex, some much better than others. The point is that it would be much better had he been left intact. Sex was definitely better in the beginning of our relationship than it has been the last year or so. Of course his age and loss of sensitivity could have a lot to do with that. Is it so strange that while the USA has one of the highest circumcised rates in the world, we also have the highest percentage of men on Viagra?
It was only a few years ago that I realized that women could have internal orgasms. Of course they are nearly unheard of with cut men, but apparently are quite common with intact men. The gliding action of the foreskin rubs against just the right spots and takes women to their peak faster and more often. Ever heard of multiple orgasms? If you’ve only been with cut men, you’ve probably never experienced one without the help of a vibrator.
Circumcised men can only feel pleasure in and around the head of their penis. Having lost half their penile skin and all those enriched pleasure nerves, they can only feel pleasure at the scar, the glans and what is left of their frenulum. Since the tightest area of a woman’s vagina is within the first two inches, many cut men furiously pump close to the surface to get that necessary friction. What they don’t seem to realize is that this does next to nothing for us women, and it can hurt, especially if they pull out too far and clumsily try to ram back inside. Talk about killing the mood.
Many women claim it’s more intimate making love to an intact man, since his full body can make contact with the women he is having sex with. Cut men pull back so they can get a good grip and position for their lunge and parry, and this causes a separation and distance between the lovers. Intact men can take their time, build up a rhythm and drive their women crazy with desire. Cut men are like a locomotive, building up steam, pumping faster and faster until all they can think of is to keep up just the right pressure to get them to climax. They can’t help it though, since they were robbed of the important part (foreskin) of their penis that allows them to pace themselves and enjoy the sex itself almost as much as the climax, AND to make sure the woman enjoys it too.
Men don’t realize how many times women are left feeling cheated after sex. They finish before the women reach their peak. Cut men can’t help that though, since they don’t have their foreskin, which allows them to slow down when they need to without stopping the pleasure, allowing their women to catch up and even pass them by. Cut men either have trouble reaching climax or get there too soon. If they have enough experience, they might be better at holding off on their pleasure until she has hers, but is it experience or loss of sensitivity?
I think there is a fine line between the two for circumcised men. The older a cut man gets, the more keratanization has occurred to his penis. This means that the remaining pleasure nerves he has are becoming tougher as he ages. This means that it takes even more pressure and friction for him to reach climax. For some men it means they cannot orgasm no matter how hard they try. Is it no surprise why cut men prefer oral sex to intercourse? It appears from my research that intact men are more likely to prefer the opposite, since they do not require the extra oral pressure to achieve climax.
So while I’m normally telling mothers not to circumcise their babies because it alters their brains forever and/or could make them bitter or violent men, this goes out to all you women who post on twitter that you want nothing to do with an intact man. For every man you reject because he is whole, you are cheating yourself. Not only could he be Mr. Right, he probably would treat you better than a man who may or may not have deep seated resentments of all women. Believe me, cut men can stink too if they don’t shower before sex. If you’re so worried about having sex with an intact man, take a shower before hand. I’m sure he won’t mind you washing his willy! And believe it or not, the skin on his penis can be just as clean as the skin on his lips. Do you make your men brush their teeth and gargle before you kiss them? Then why make them jump through hoops before sex? If you’re going to judge them for what’s in their shorts, it’s doubtful you know them that well, so use a condom. That way it doesn’t matter how clean it is, and intact men are more likely to wear them. Cut men don’t like to use condoms, since it cuts down on what they can feel. Think about that one the next time you turn down a cute guy.
I can give you more anecdotal evidence for this post. I had a boyfriend for three years who was intact, and there is no comparison. I’ve told my mother in law I wish she hadn’t cut her son, especially considering HER husband was never cut. She cheated me of something she had.
I’ll never understand why a woman with an intact husband would cut her son. My mother did it, but she says it’s because my father wanted him to be. It seems that my father was unhappy he was intact because he thought it made him stink (he merely had very bad body odor). So even adults can be ignorant about their own genitals and inflict harm on their children due to that ignorance.
Of course all that is from my mother, so who knows if it’s really true. And my father is dead, so I can never ask him.
My mother in law was fed the rampant misinformation of that time by her doctor, but what I don’t understand is why she wouldn’t talk to her husband’s mother about intact care and how she managed to raise two intact boys without their dicks falling off… My husbands mother tried to tell me I’d be spending hours retracting and cleaning my son’s penis, and when I handed her the pamphlet from DHS on proper intact care, the regret of cutting her son was visible. The only reason she cut was because of the cleanliness pitch she received from her doc. It’s forgivable as it was before the age of the Internet and medical skepticism.
But didn’t she see how easy it was for her own husband to clean his intact penis? You wouldn’t think a doctor could have convinced her to cut, unless she didn’t like the fact he was intact? That is hard to imagine, but I suppose it could be true.